May 10, 2023
I was mortified: The last podcast was a DISASTER. I was so ashamed that I could not record another episode. You have to listen to this episode to know what I am talking about.
Shame is a complex and intense emotion that can be difficult to overcome, but it is possible with patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to work through the underlying issues. Here are some strategies that can help:
Recognize and name the shame: The first step to overcoming shame is to identify and acknowledge it. Recognize the thoughts and feelings that arise when you experience shame. Try to name the specific emotion, such as embarrassment, guilt, or humiliation.
Practice self-compassion: Shame can be a self-critical and self-destructive emotion, but self-compassion can help counteract these tendencies. Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and acceptance. Acknowledge your mistakes and shortcomings, but don't beat yourself up over them.
Challenge negative self-talk: Shame often arises from negative self-talk and beliefs, such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm a failure." Challenge these thoughts by examining the evidence, questioning their validity, and replacing them with more positive and accurate self-talk.
Seek support: Shame thrives in isolation, so seek out supportive friends, family members, or a therapist who can provide a safe and non-judgmental space to process your emotions and experiences.
Take action: Shame can be paralyzing, but taking action can help you feel more empowered and in control. Identify small steps you can take to move forward and make positive changes in your life.
Practice vulnerability: Shame often arises from a fear of being vulnerable or exposing one's true self. Practicing vulnerability by sharing your thoughts and feelings with others can help build trust, connection, and resilience.
So there you have it, if you go through what I had to go through
maybe take the above steps to get over your shame.
Before I forget: Go to www.drfaryal.com/retreat2023
to sign up for the retreat in Hawaii.
I hope to see you then.